test: make the backend suite pass on Windows

The new informational Windows job surfaced 91 failures: four real bugs (fixed in
the previous two commits) and a long tail of POSIX assumptions in the tests
themselves. None of them assert behaviour that differs on Windows, so they are
fixed rather than skipped wherever the behaviour is the same:

* Path spelling: expectations built with `str(tmp_path)` are compared through an
  identity helper (`normalize_root_identity`) or the platform's separator, since
  the code hands out forward-slashed business paths while `str()` is native.
* Root labels: `_root_display_labels` prefixes the drive on Windows ("C: loras"),
  so label assertions compare the final path component or derive the expected
  label from the same helper.
* `~` expansion reads USERPROFILE (ntpath), not HOME; timer granularity rounds
  0.1s down; a case-only rename counts as "already named" via `os.path.normcase`.
* Genuinely POSIX-only strategies are skipped with a reason instead of failing:
  the headless clipboard fallback, dbus file-manager selection, xdg-open, and
  the case-fold index test that simulates a case-sensitive filesystem.

tests/services/test_pending_delete_service.py

@@ -901,7 +901,7 @@ async def test_p_checkpoint_pending_discovery_excludes_staging(tmp_path: Path, m
 
     pending = await scanner._find_pending_models_from_filesystem()
     paths = [entry["file_path"] for entry in pending]
-    assert str(root / "real.safetensors") in paths
+    assert str(root / "real.safetensors").replace(os.sep, "/") in paths
     assert not any(PENDING_DELETE_DIR_NAME in p for p in paths)
 
 
@@ -921,7 +921,7 @@ async def test_p_usage_stats_lookup_excludes_staging(tmp_path: Path) -> None:
     )
 
     # Staged file is not matched; only the real one is returned.
-    assert result == str(root / "mycheckpoint.safetensors")
+    assert result == str(root / "mycheckpoint.safetensors").replace(os.sep, "/")
 
 
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